Friday, October 22, 2010

A must read.

I need to pick up a copy for myself, and suggest all of y'all do the same, but I just love the following pieces of advice from the blog turned book,

Happy Friday muffins.

#264 People can change, but you can’t change them.

#263 Accept chivalry.When your father and I started dating, I was shocked by the way he held every door for me and grasped my hand when I stepped off a low curb. Despite being secretly smitten by these gestures, in my self-righteous youth, I responded with ridiculous assertions that I could do it myself. I kept up this charade until the day he bluntly told me to lay off. He knew I was perfectly capable of the simple task of opening a door; he just wanted to do it for me! Then and now, I revel in your father’s dedication to old-fashioned chivalry: He still walks to the passenger side of the car to open the door for me; he refuses to allow me to carry heavy things; and he insists that I wrap myself in his coat, even though I knew it would be a cold night and left my warm jacket at home because it didn’t coordinate with my dress. This is what’s known as gallantry. Know that you aren’t entitled to it, and you can’t expect it, but in those rare cases when you find it beating down your door, embrace it! Also, thank your father for showing you how it’s done. 
#238 Where there's smoke there's fire.When there are facts that you don’t want to face, it’s tempting to rationalize them away and avoid the truth. This type of self-deception only mires you deeper in the muck. Trust your instincts: Things are usually exactly what they seem to be.
#231 Come home.Don’t stay away from home for too long, if only because my heart breaks a little every week we spend apart.
#228 When your tax bill goes up, revel in all the libraries, schools, and roads you are helping to maintain.And really, a higher tax bill means you’ve made more money. Take pride in that and in your contribution to the civil services those taxes pay for.
#225 You will get good at anything you practice.
#220 If you are passionate about a craft, invest in the best equipment you can afford.Whether in photography, making music, woodworking, or cooking, the right equipment makes a difference in the finished quality of your work. What is money for if not to feed your passions? Invest in your talent.
#203 Return your shopping cart.Abandoning your shopping cart in the middle of the parking lot implies a sense of entitlement. Someone has to put it away, that someone should be you.
#181 Be where you are.Try not to think about where you need to go next or wherever you just came from. This is more difficult than it sounds, but work at it. It’s important for your head to be present in the place where your body is. 
#179 Talk to strangers.Teaching you to fear strangers would be cynical. The generosity of unknown people will ease your burden on many occasions. Instead, I want you to learn to gauge people’s intentions by listening to your gut instincts and recognizing subtle cues. Confidence in this skill will allow you to avoid the aberrant persons you encounter and embrace something much more common – the kindness of strangers.
#176 A wrap dress is universally flattering.
#170 If you marry your first love you will miss out on the exquisite pain of a broken heart.
#161 Live alone for a period of time.I love living with you and your father; I also cherish the years I spent living alone. You shouldn't go from being someone's daughter to someone's wife to someone's mother without first being someone yourself. Living alone will allow you to discover who you are when no one is watching, what you need to get through a day, and ultimately that you are a capable, independent woman.
#160 Indulge.Live a rich life textured with little extravagances. Eat the hot fudge brownie, buy the handmade dhurrie rug, lie in your flannel sheets all Sunday afternoon. Just remember that indulgence by definition is temporary gratification of a whim. Do it more than once in a while and you're just a hedonist.
#152 Men as a rule are not good mind readers.Articulate your thoughts to them clearly if you want to be sure that you will be understood. Imagine writing on a 3X5 card; short and to the point.
#145 The order that people should enter and exit an elevator is: The elderly, then persons with disabilities, then children, and finally able-bodied adults.
#141 See the beauty everywhere.
#125 You are an American.Whether or not love of country is a passion point for you, please don't take it for granted that you are a citizen of the United States. There are some vital things to be proud of, not the least of which is your right to feel however you want to about it.
#116 At the close of each day, fill your head with thoughts of how lucky you are.It's counting your blessings; saying your thanks. No matter what kind of day you have had, you are a fortunate girl in one way or another. Your father and I talk to each other every night before sleep about what a magical joy you are and what a lovely life we have together. It's important to bring these thoughts to the front of your brain; it cements the little things that make life happy into one cohesive positive outlook. 
#115 It's not a good idea to weld while wearing tights because the sparks will burn holes in your stockings and legs. 
#100 I love you.Your grandmother, my mother, wished that I share this with you here above all of her other gems. I can guarantee you daughter, looking back on the relationship that she and I have shared, that there will be times you just don't believe it. But it is, and always will be, an absolute unwavering certainty that I Love You. 
#94 When attending a party, open the door with one hand and bring a gift in the other.
#80 Not everyone is going to like you, and that's just fine.
#72 Have one good karaoke song in your back pocket.If you happen to have inherited your parent's inability to sing very well, that's okay you should still sing all the time! Singing in the car or the shower or just humming to yourself while you walk is fun! Pick one song and learn to sing it really well. Then you can whip it out at karaoke night or some other occasion when singing seems like the thing to do.
#66 Throw parties!!
#41 Maintain good credit at all costs.This is a lesson for the ages. There is much more to this that I will have to do my best to teach you, but you can start by keeping a written budget and developing a sense of responsibility towards your future self.
#34 Good lighting is the key to decorating a cozy home. 
#26 Tend to your friendships, especially those with women.
#21 Pay attention to politics.
#13 You have a garden.If you ever get sad that you don't have a garden of your own, remember that you have hundreds of beautiful gardens all over the city and all over the world. Try to erase the language of "want" from your head. You have everything that you need.
#7 Always make time for the art museum in every city you visit. You learn much about a city and yourself when you see its art collection. A good museum will fill your chest up until it feels as though your heart could explode.
#4 When given the opportunity, wear a costume. 
#1 Always send a thank you note.This has served your mother and grandmothers well for generations and seems a fitting place to start.

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